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Title: My wife wants a separation... I think Post by: gicam61@gmail.com on October 13, 2019, 06:35:07 AM My wife wants to separate, but I am not sure if it is just her way of looking for attention. All I know is that I love her, yet I am exhausted. I know I can fix things but what is the point if we both live a frustrated life. I spend my time spoiling her and protecting her from herself, yet she says I do not show affection and I am too controlling. If I fix this then I am committing myself to more of the same.
We went to counseling for many years with a very informed Psychologist, but now she refuses to return because I apparently have brainwashed him to believe me. I have read many books on BPD and NPD, both of which she has been clinically diagnosed, but it is too hard to walk on eggshells all the time. I don't believe in divorce, but I also want off of this rollercoaster. Title: Re: My wife wants a separation... I think Post by: Radcliff on October 14, 2019, 08:50:46 PM *welcome*
It sounds like you've worked very hard to make things better but are at the end of your rope. Many of us arrived in the same state. You mentioned you've read a lot of books. How has your approach to her changed as you've learned through reading? Have any changes in your approach helped things? RC |