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Title: New here. Thinking about leaving. Need support. Post by: MissingMom on October 20, 2019, 11:19:39 AM I’m not sure if I’m doing this right. It’s my first post. I’ve recently discovered that my boyfriend of 16 years quite possibly has Borderline Personality Disorder. He exhibits a LOT of the traits I’ve read about. I’m at the point where I think I need to leave the relationship but I have no idea where to start. Our lives are so intertwined after 16 years together. I keep telling myself it’s a blessing that we don’t have kids and aren’t married. I’m still feeling completely trapped.
Title: Re: New here. Thinking about leaving. Need support. Post by: Cat Familiar on October 20, 2019, 12:45:31 PM I’m so sorry and I get this. I felt the same way, trapped, in my first marriage. :hug: :hug: Though it may seem counter to your thought of leaving, I’m going to move your post to the Bettering board.
Whether or not you stay in the relationship, there you will learn strategies to keep things calmer, which will certainly be helpful should you leave. Best, Cat Title: Re: New here. Thinking about leaving. Need support. Post by: Harri on October 20, 2019, 02:38:16 PM Hi and welcome. :hi:
What sort of behaviors does he exhibit where you think he may have BPD? What made you think about BPD as a possibility? Share more when you can. We get it here and can help you regardless of what you decide about your relationship status. *welcome* |