BPDFamily.com

I just got back from Africa yesterday unfortunately in bad health. I keep having fainting spells so I am pretty much confined to bed which sucks. In the middle of this my husband tells me he just heard from a friend of my son who says DS just took a bunch of pills. H is going over there thank God. I am in no shape to face this. I am utterly exhausted in every way.

I’m praying for you, son, and family! Sometimes it is a blessing to be temporarily out of commission. I had similar experience with my dd a couple times when she was younger. She “just wanted to sleep for a couple days”.  I hope you get all the rest you need to recoup!

Oh Faith I'm so sorry!   I do agree with Trusting.  Get your rest, thank God for your husband and I too will be praying for you and your family.   :heart: :heart:

Ohh Faith,
I am so sorry.
Stay in the bed and sleep as much as you are able. Sleep is a blessing and a healer.

Hope he's Ok..xx

I'm so sorry Faith. I hope your son is okay, and that you feel better soon. Keeping you all in my prayers.
2CC

My son is physically OK and still messed up otherwise. My husband's visit accomplished nothing. I feel.like we need to both step back and let him deal with his own life. If he chooses to f it up so be it. That is his choice.

Faith I'm glad your son is ok physically. I hope you are able to rest up and you feel better soon. WDx

I am glad he is OK physically.  Take care of you, I am sorry you are ill.

Faith,
Welcome back and I’m sorry you are unwell and having to run smack into DS’s poor coping skills. Every time I read your updates I’m reminded of the “Radically accepting” stance that I’ve be advised to take on a daily basis. I’d like it to be a one time thing and just work really hard to Radically accept this mess and call it done, but that is impossible because the goal line is always moving and the behaviors are always changing so we need to do it everyday to set our minds straight.

I told you was was doing a trauma intensive 3 day based on Pia Melody’s work) and you were interested. It was based on early years0-17 and included somatic work from Peter Levine. It really was an eye opener for me and very effective. Would you be interested in anything like that?
Big hug to you,
Peacemom

He is so sensitive for this world, it's heartbreaking that he can not pull himself toward the light, FaithHopeLove.

Is there a Wellness Recovery Action Plan facilitator he might be willing to connect with? It is based on a peer-to-peer system of those who have walked this path: https://copelandcenter.com/find-facilitator/facilitator-directory


I can't say enough about this work. Like PeaceMom, I've done some trauma work based on Levine's somatic experiencing work and it has been remarkable.

I was able to visit with my family, the origin of a fair bit of trauma, and my body was not activated. It is amazing how much easier it is to radically accept something when your body is not in fight/flight or freeze mode.

LNL,
Yes this has been my exact experience, as well. I’ve been researching S.E. for BPD and it seems very appropriate. Some studies believe there is likely a trauma component to BPD so I’m wondering why we don’t read more about S.E.? My DD is so dysregulated in her body that she can’t even work the DBT skills.  She has trouble with eye contact, physical touch and is quite sickly. All these symptoms are somatic based.

Wow lived'nlearned and Peacemom.  I've read about Somatic experiencing and it's supposed to be very good for PTSD as well.
I was originally going to come on to say I'm wondering if Faith's return from South Africa triggered this response.  Just like there was a trigger when she left.   Just a question - since my son gets triggered each time that I leave and each time that I return.  Only in a different way but I'm still curious.

I am thinking about SE. Still not sure if it is for me or not. As for DS, he has so far been resistant to most therapy although he did go for one joint session with my H. As for me going and coming it may be triggering for DS as he does have attachment issues with me. Anyway one step at a time. First priority is my health.

How are you feeling physically now Faith?

Physically I am better although not fully recovered. I am planning to stay home and rest for a few more days.