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Closing in on 4 months of no contact with my ex. Each day gets easier, each day I feel lighter, each day I feel as if I'm gaining the person back that I was, before I got swept away by the storm at sea.

For those who are moving on and safely out of the shackles that chained us, be grateful for the experience. This type of relationship taught you so much. How to stand up for yourself, how to walk away, how to trust that there was so much better and healthier out there. I have yet to meet someone new, however I know she exists. It takes so much strength to walk away from these types of relationships, so give yourself credit today.

For those in the midst of the pain and chaos, use your alone time wisely. Trust me when I say, it does get better.

R

AWESOME!  And THANK YOU!

Yes it takes strength and courage. And yes - it gets easier every day.  My lord, I love this community for what it has done to help me see, know and trust in the path I am walking.

Have a blessed day.

Rev

Thanks Gizmo it is good to hear positive words. It has been a murky dip into that world of personality disorders and on the one hand what a headache what a mind numbing ordeal to make sense of.

The beauty of it is to get through and it is tough work builds resilience and from my own side, polished some character.

Today there is nothing to think of my ex, that deck has been cleared but it has made me more aware of what is out there.

This isn't as rare as thought and the skills learned can be usefully applied. Ideally for me to avoid this sort ofnl scenario happening again. Prevention is easier than cure.

For those still reeling of the ongoing mop up of emotions and confusion etc. It won't and it can't continue this way indefinitly. The rate of Change is an individual thing.

Is it possible to imagine a goal of how it might feel ~ the absence of emotional pain and confidence of having gone through something so difficult. Might be hard to right now but it is attainable.

I look back also and think "what if I'd done this or that if only I could have or should have"

It makes no sense really. It does not change the other it may have at best just limited some damage.

Perhaps the biggest future lesson, stop hoping to change the other and the importance to walk away. Extract oneself from a hostile environment not stay enmeshed in it.

I don't feel sorry for myself

 "I did the best I could in the circumstances"

All the best gizmo and everyone else on this journey

This right here! I told my therapist I had no idea people like this existed out there. Now I do.