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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Parent, Sibling, or In-law Suffering from BPD => Topic started by: Spindle0516 on January 28, 2020, 11:25:36 AM



Title: Self Care
Post by: Spindle0516 on January 28, 2020, 11:25:36 AM
As my husband and I have been learning how to navigate this BPD world, and the stress and anxiety that it brings, we have both been trying really hard to ensure we are taking care of our mental and physical health.

We both love yoga and running. My husband takes time to read and write everyday. I make a point to see my family, especially my sweet 18 month old nephew, regularly.

I'm just curious what other people do for self care while they also navigate all these muddy BPD waters?


Title: Re: Self Care
Post by: Mata on January 28, 2020, 04:25:56 PM
My husband and I have been going to weekly NAMI meetings.  I also started therapy, which has been really good so far. 

I try to exercise and get enough sleep - I sleep in whenever I can!  My work is important to me, so I try to make it a priority.  Some nights I color and other times H and I watch comedy specials. I treated myself to a massage the other day.  And I play with my dog.  He's a great stress-sponge.  Sometimes I just get myself a fancy coffee.     


Title: Re: Self Care
Post by: Methuen on January 29, 2020, 12:21:46 PM
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I'm just curious what other people do for self care while they also navigate all these muddy BPD waters?

Yoga, go to the gym, walks, hike (summertime)
Hobbies
Mindfulness/meditation app (super helpful at night when I can't sleep)
Volunteer
Learn a new skill (for me it's dabbling in painting)
Meet with a friend for a coffee or a walk

The going to the gym part is a battle to combat osteoporosis because my uBPD mom with an eating disorder did her best to keep me "small" as a child (calcium bone formation is pretty much "set" for life by 19-20 yrs age.  After that it's mostly about bone maintenance).  When I was a teenager, she set up dieting contests with me (with rewards) to see who could lose the most weight.  I was about 80 lbs soaking wet in grades 11-12.  I became enlightened in my university years.  I didn't appreciate oseoporosis and the risks until I already had it in my 40's.  Hence my work at the gym now, which mom doesn't approve of.  Neither does she approve of my body since I eat whatever I feel like!