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Title: Huband with BPD Post by: KLD2007 on February 13, 2020, 01:11:02 PM I'm so happy to have found this chat.
My husband had an inappropriate conversation with an ex fiancé in March of 2017. He knew he needed help so we got him to a psychiatrist. He's was diagnosed with PtSD and depression but he does lie so it could have changed since then. He's always been a quiet BPD and internalized it all. Well April of 2019 he drank too much with his meds (Xanax, sertraline, buspar, folic acid) and punched holes in the walls of a friends club. Two weeks later I found out what he did and he didnt' remember. I told him and from that point on I am his anger problem, I've kept him from his family, basically to him, I'm the root of all evil. To this day he still hates me. How do I know it's his BPD or if he truly hates me and wants a divorce? We have filed before but he refused to sign and over the summer it was withdrawn. Now he wants a divorce again (so he says) but won't sign. THen he says he got a lawyer but no word yet. Does he really want to stay or does he truly want out? Title: Re: Huband with BPD Post by: pursuingJoy on February 13, 2020, 03:04:14 PM Hi KLD2007 :hi: I'm glad you're here too!
It's hard to say what he wants. It's possible that in a powerful shame-averse state, he is projecting hate for himself onto you. More importantly, how are you doing with all of this? What do you want? How long have you been married? |