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Title: Texted him..Feeling stupid right now Post by: Lulu1 on February 20, 2020, 07:45:48 AM Hiya Guys, I need some advice. Eurgh I feel so silly! It’s been 4 months since the guy I was dating (bpd) and I went separate ways. 3 months since we last spoke.
Something reminded me on Tuesday of his young child and I messaged him. Didn’t say it warranted a reply or anything. Just wanted to make sure he was ok. (Why I'd care I don’t know) 5 mins later he replied; Civil. Said ‘thanks for reaching out’ and added a kiss and a photo of his kid & him. We exchanged a few messages then that was it. I didn’t get the ‘reaching out’ part. Sounds almost like he was expecting a text some day, as if I was in the wrong ? I've heard nothing since.. Title: Re: Texted him..Feeling stupid right now Post by: Lucky Jim on February 20, 2020, 05:11:07 PM Hey Lulu, Don't beat yourself up! Next time, maybe you could pause before texting and look at your feelings in a mindful way before acting on them. What would you like to see happen? Are you ready to move on or would you be interested in a recycle? It's your call.
LuckyJim Title: Re: Texted him..Feeling stupid right now Post by: Rev on February 20, 2020, 06:38:22 PM Hey Lulu, Don't beat yourself up! Next time, maybe you could pause before texting and look at your feelings in a mindful way before acting on them. What would you like to see happen? Are you ready to move on or would you be interested in a recycle? It's your call. LuckyJim Ditto - wouldn't change a word of this advice from LJ Title: Re: Texted him..Feeling stupid right now Post by: gizmocasci on February 20, 2020, 10:12:13 PM Ditto - wouldn't change a word of this advice from LJ This! Sending you love and hugs. Title: Re: Texted him..Feeling stupid right now Post by: cosmical on February 21, 2020, 09:44:25 AM I reached out too with a similar message. I convinced myself that I was just being caring, but infact I was looking for an opening to get some answers/closure. Have to try really hard to be honest with yourself.
Title: Re: Texted him..Feeling stupid right now Post by: ArtistGuy70 on March 02, 2020, 06:22:59 AM My heart aches for you. I've been there. Don't beat yourself up over it. Learn from it and say, okay that was my last text. Be kind to yourself.
Title: Re: Texted him..Feeling stupid right now Post by: Forgiveness on March 02, 2020, 09:26:46 AM I would add that "Thanks for reaching out" is a normal response that a normal non-BPD person would make. It means thanks for reaching out, that is all.
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