Title: He packed a bag Post by: Ozzie101 on February 20, 2020, 09:20:42 PM H packed a bag and said he thought it would be best if he and SS stayed elsewhere for a while -- at least tonight. ("It's what you did last year. This is the same thing? Do you want this? Well, I didn't want it last year.")
They're still here, though. I don't really believe they're going anywhere. I stayed calm and collected, told him I didn't want him to go but hey an adult and will decide for himself. Also that the end of a stressful day with alcohol in his system isn't the time for deciding something that big. Honestly, though, it might be a relief if he left and I had peace for tonight. Title: Re: He packed a bag Post by: UBPDHelp on February 20, 2020, 09:40:00 PM Hi Ozzie,
I’m sorry and I hear you! Not wanting but not wanting the offered alternative either. I’m on day 4-5 of silent treatment from my H and sorting out what it means and next steps. My H didn’t come home tonight at all. I only know where he is b/c my CC sends alerts of atypical charges. Staying at a hotel by your house is atypical. I so wish I had something wise to say to you when you’re dealing with so much. I am not that person, YET. But just want you to know I’m thinking of you and am here to lend an ear. I hope he feels more settled tonight. Blessings. Title: Re: He packed a bag Post by: AskingWhy on February 20, 2020, 11:24:20 PM Bill Eddy, a social worker and lawyer who wrote "Splitting," a guide on divorcing a BPD or NPD, said threats of leaving or divorce are common with BPDs, but they rarely mean it.
It's part of the push/pull of the BPD. It is very frustrating for the non. How are you coping with this most recent departure or threat of departure? Title: Re: He packed a bag Post by: Ozzie101 on February 21, 2020, 07:45:42 AM Yeah, I can't say I was too surprised -- probably because divorce has come up so much. That's why I was able to stay calm.
He didn't leave (didn't think he would). The evening ran its usual course: lots of ranting and rambling and repetition, then a return to baseline. Title: Re: He packed a bag Post by: UBPDHelp on February 21, 2020, 08:08:49 AM So glad everything was uneventful last night! Nice job keeping an even keel this week. #goals
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