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Hi

My expwbdp has started dating my roommate. Our relationship ended for the final time nearly a year ago. Unfortunately I can't do complete no contact as we are in a band together, it's not a little project kind of thing, it's something that takes us around the world and we have a substantial fan base. It's something that we've been doing since before we even had a romantic relationship (4 years).

But since the final break up, I've been trying to have minimal contact with them, just keeping it to band related things (rehearsals, recording, meetings ect) and with these situations we are fine and I don't feel uncomfortable and I feel no conflict from them.

But as the year progressed they'd keep trying to invite themselves over, mainly using my roommate as they work together, and they'd also guilted me into inviting them to our new year's party.

My roomate told me yesterday that they'd been seeing each other for about 2 months (this isn't during the period they'd invite themselves over regularly).

So while I don't mind that they're seeing each (I really couldn't care). The boundaries I've been trying to set up for about a year are completely gone now, which is frustrating and I'm worried they're using my roommate as a means of manipulation. I hope I'm wrong and I legitimately hope they've fallen for each other. But it's starting to stress me, which is something I haven't really felt since the break up.

What do you think is the worst that can happen? And how can you prepare for that?