Title: My Fiance has BPD Post by: LadyM_Macbeth on March 12, 2020, 12:56:57 PM My fiance has BPD - and I am struggling a lot. At first when he was diagnosed, things improved significantly. He was interested in DBT and did a workbook everyday; he went to therapy; and he tried a lot. Since then, he has been gradually slipping. Back into different types of very unexpected reckless behavior, mood swings that are like a roller coaster, and lots of episodes. When he has an episode, he does a lot of splitting and everything is my fault (not in an overt way but a subtle, indirect blame kind of way). His grip on reality slips and I start to feel crazy after a while. His made up world becomes his reality and then I start to question if I am right about what is even real. Example, he is jealous and harps on previous relationships, which he has fabricated stories about. After a while of talking to him, I start to think his version of the events is real! Even though I LIVED it. I am getting to where I am not sure what to do or how to handle anything anymore. He keeps saying that he knows everything is his fault, etc; but subtly, he adds in subtext that it's more my fault because I trigger him. I genuinely love him, but he is making me crazy I think. It's been 4 months since he was diagnosed.
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