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Title: How to not trigger Post by: Overwhelmed73 on April 02, 2020, 02:15:21 PM Hello
I am.new to this group . This is my 1st post. My adult child has all the.traits but no formal diagnosis. My biggest question is - how.to speak to her about my concerns and wishes/rules of.the.house without starting a war? Title: Re: How to not trigger Post by: Swimmy55 on April 03, 2020, 09:25:02 AM Welcome! Yes, communication is a tough issue with our BPD adult child. Please take a look around this website. Here is a link from this website for you to take a look at called SET: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=143695.0
The main thing to remember is not to be hard on yourself, because these don't "take" over night with the BPD adult child and it takes a lot of practice and it may work for some issues but not others. In addition I suggest you read up as much as you can about BPD. There is a book suggestion list in the library here. One book" Stop Walking on Eggshells" is a popular one here. It gives the caretakers permission to take care of themselves first . You are as important as your BPD child, and that often gets lost in the shuffle and struggle of day to day living with them. |