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Coping with a sudden discard- what are your best tips? Especially the ghosting after it all seemed it was going so well. Feeling incredibly vulnerable and more than a little foolish right now. Also struggling to make sense of it all!

So sorry you are experiencing this. Ghosting is so damaging and hurtful. Please be gentle with yourself. This is a serious emotional trauma and deserves to be treated as such. You are not alone. There are lots of good people here and they have lots of good lessons. Please keep reading and posting.

Hope

KitKat,

I'm very sorry you're in pain. The sudden and unexpected nature of these shifts is emotionally brutal. You're not alone.

Do you feel like sharing more about what happened? Do you have some support around you?

Hi there, yes it was a very sudden discard for an (ex) partner. No idea it was coming- was literally out of the blue. Almost like a complete personality change from one day to the next. Just trying to work out how to process it all.

Process it yes. Try to understand it...don't bother. There is no making sense of it. That is the truth of it. You'll continue to ponder why but its a waste of time and effort. The best thing you can do...love yourself. Forgive yourself. Believe in you. Don't feel foolish. Hey no one is perfect and sh*t happens. Just continue to tell yourself you are not the problem and you are not the cause. Each and every individual is responsible for his or her own actions and behaviors. You didn't make your partner change. You didn't make your partner discard you. Please keep that in mind.

Don't punish yourself. In your time of getting over this relationship remind yourself of what you want and what you deserve. Think critically and set up some criteria for yourself moving forward. With each failure there is a new origin for a success story to begin!

Cheers and best wishes to you!

-SC-