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Title: Are you able to forgive your loved one with BPD? How so? Post by: Pemi23 on May 09, 2020, 02:02:46 PM This is a very vague question- are you able to forgive the person you love for their BPD-induced actions? The emotional instability, selfishness, hostility, childish behavior. Where do you draw the line? Can you forgive them and tell yourself that it's not fully their fault? How do we move on from the pain that these people have caused us?
Title: Re: Are you able to forgive your loved one with BPD? How so? Post by: itsmeSnap on May 09, 2020, 03:55:50 PM Forgiving is not the same as allowing/enabling.
If you can see it for what it is, it becomes easier to stand your ground (or removing yourself!) to protect yourself and while still being loving and caring. Excerpt How do we move on from the pain that these people have caused us? Realize that you can't change the past. You will probably not get an apology or even get them to change their ways either, so you have to free yourself from the expectations and pain.Have you read about radical acceptance? It worked wonders for my own process, I am no longer in a bpd relationship (we both have our own different partners now) but managed to stay good friends with her so I still get to practice what I learned. What's happening that you're having trouble moving on from? |