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Hello, I’m new here. I’m not even sure if this forum is even still active or if I’m a few years too late, but my husband has BPD. It’s been an emotional rollercoaster and trying to cope with his anger issues is starting to destroy my own mental health. I’ve questioned whether or not I should just leave and start over with someone new many times. I love him, but it hurts me so badly to live like this. I just want him to get help. He gets set off so easily nearly anything can send him into a rage. I feel like I’m living in constant fear of how something might make him react. It’s really no way to live. I want him to try therapy and I think he might be open to it. I’m just scared I’m going to be stuck waiting for him to change with my life on pause forever. This isn’t what I expected because I was naive to the realities of BPD. We’ve only just learned about it maybe a year ago. He’s never had any proper therapy, other than coming with me to a few of my own sessions. There’s so many things I struggle with, I know they say not to take the BP’s behavior personally, but how can I not when I’m stuck in a room with him while he throws things, or kicks walls, or yells? How can I not take it personally when I’m in the car while he speeds down the road? I don’t know what to do anymore.