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Title: the cycle Post by: lark265 on May 25, 2020, 02:11:40 AM We "broke up" about 5 years ago. And we have two kids together who live with her close by. For unknown reasons, I feel like I am on a neverending path of regret and desire. Regret for maybe not trying hard enough in the relationship and desire to be back together as a family LIKE IT WAS. It's like I'm in a river eddy where I just recycle forever. Not good. And I don't really get it. After such a long time? Yes, we do have contact b/c of our kids. So that really doesn't aid in the healing. Maybe I am dreaming of a "closure" that will never happen...
Title: Re: the cycle Post by: JNChell on May 26, 2020, 12:21:10 AM lark265 :hug:. Your post really resonates with me. I share S5 with his mom. She also has a daughter from a previous relationship. For a short time, we were a family. I think you know how it ended up though. I’m sorry that you’re hurting.
You know, if you showed up here, I bet you tried very hard. To the point of exhaustion. Don’t minimize your efforts. You did everything that you could. You know, these days things are so politically screwed to the point where it’s not ok to say that you are a man and that you want your family in tact. It’s taboo to be able to talk about. Whether or not that’s the case with you, I just want to reach out and let you know that I understand how hard it is to let go of the idea of the family situation that we thought we had. Closure is a pretty common subject around here. Odds are, you’ll not get that from the mother of your children. It is, however, possible to eventually grant yourself the closure that is tugging at you. Can you tell us more about the dynamic between you and your children’s mom? |