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Title: I found out over six months ago he was using hookup sites. Post by: facefixer on June 06, 2020, 07:17:23 PM Hi all... I've just discovered this page.
After two years of being raged at by an ex and accused of many acts I've never done and then silenced with more rage as I've tried to defend myself, Ive realized i'm in a relationship that is spiraling to deep toxicity and needs to completely end. I've been struggling for over a year releasing myself from the grip of my addiction to this man. I found out over six months ago he was using hookup sites. I was shocked. I had no idea. But looking back, I can see how he is a perfect candidate for this addiction. When I found all the texts, pictures, and site, He of course blamed me, and denied. After some time, I told him I would forgive him of it and if he went into treatment and stopped the sites, we could be together. He agreed but within days he was back on again. He admitted he used the hookup site only to engage in cyber sex and it was just because he was lonely and wanted attention. He said he never met anyone physically. Should I believe this? Since we met, he has always had an issue with erectile dysfunction. It truly never bothered me. Our sex life was beautiful and I didn't think it interfered drastically. However, looking back, the ED was getting worse and I think he was on the hookup sites during those times. The last time we were together sexually, I knew about the sites and his ED was very bad. Is it related do you think? So who has experience with their partner using hookup sites, dating sites, etc? I would like to hear your story. I still struggling to let go of this man. Title: Re: addiction Post by: once removed on June 10, 2020, 10:32:57 PM The last time we were together sexually, I knew about the sites and his ED was very bad. Is it related do you think? it could be. your ex sounds like he may have struggled with intimacy. hookup sites, or cyber sex can fulfill a sexual need, but at a distance. likewise, he may have felt that struggle in real life, and that could certainly affect his performance, hence "losing it" so to speak. and if all of thats the case, it can become a sort of insidious cycle, and the online stuff can get pretty addictive. you mention youre still in a relationship...are the two of you together, or broken up? Title: Re: I found out over six months ago he was using hookup sites. Post by: BDR on July 03, 2020, 11:57:38 PM When I accuse my wife of 20 years of using hook up sights she gaslighted me so bad that I thought I lost my mind and was getting paranoid - then I caught her in a dark empty parking lot with a man younger than her own son .
Title: Re: I found out over six months ago he was using hookup sites. Post by: BDR on July 04, 2020, 12:00:55 AM an affair is one thing but if it turns into and addiction or a way of numbing it will take exposure and extreme pain on their behalf to even try to stop ,
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