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Title: Preparing for divorce and full of anxiety Post by: Princesat on June 22, 2020, 11:39:47 AM I’m at the point where I know that I need to divorce (17 years) but am paralyzed by fear and guilt, and I recognize how easily I can be manipulated with those feelings and my own co-dependency. I can get right to the edge of this decision but struggle immensely with the courage to cross over the line and actually initiate the divorce. The charming and splitting turn me upside down every time. I feel as though I’ve been building a bridge out since the very start of this marriage and can’t tell if I’m getting closer and should just stay the course bit by bit (even if it takes a couple more years) or if I just somehow need to some way gather the whatever-it-is to light the fire and just get out no matter what comes my way.
Title: Re: Preparing for divorce and full of anxiety Post by: Cat Familiar on June 22, 2020, 06:46:34 PM Whether you stay or you go, learning strategies to minimize conflict will be helpful. For that reason, I'm moving your thread to the Bettering Board. The more you can have a clear head to make such a momentous decision, the better.
Best, Cat Title: Re: Preparing for divorce and full of anxiety Post by: once removed on June 25, 2020, 03:26:53 AM tell us more.
what is going on, day to day? what has you wanting to divorce him? what has you wanting to stay? |