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I feel like I'm at peace when my phone is silent. I choose when I see what. I don't cringe and immediately tense up when it rings, pings and violently vibrates all...day if its silent. Yet he says I'm ignoring him. I must not care how his day is since he always calls/texts 1st. We both work. He's a med tech constantly with patients or in with docs or updating records. I'm an HR Administrator, I'm constantly WORKING. But I'm the jerk who must not care, and must have "something else going on"...at work. If i rtake a wale, go for a smoke break or out to lunch, I am ignoring him if I dont at least text. My phone is open for inspection at all times. I'm connected to a location app so he always knows where I'm at and that I'm "safe". I answer questions truthfully and openly. I don't flirt, stray or cross any boundries with the opposite sex. I don't lie, cheat or steal. I'm transparent. Yet I'm constantly accused of the dreaded "something else". If I'm asked if something is bothering me( 2× day, min) and nothing is and say so, 10 minutes will go by and a question like, "did something you saw on face book bother you?" "Did you talk to anyone today?"...o.M.gosh I'm exhausted. I e given resources for therapy, groups, psychiatrists...no action, and denial of anything wrong. When I say I'm angry after 2 days of verbal and texted vitriol, I'm being selfish and ruminating...help

That sounds harsh. Sorry to hear what you've been going through. I'm a little concerned about this location app though. I get the reasoning behind it, but in my experience, giving into the demands of someone with BPD to give them temporary alleviation for their fear of being abandoned or rejected just leads to more and more demands until your life has been totally eroded. That's kind of what happened to me...and it's not fun.

So it's better to set boundaries now, proactively in a situation where he doesn't bring it up. Don't imagine what he'll say or the consequences, just do that and hope for the best.