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We have been struggling for years, but I have hit my limit.  I am used to being on the roller coaster, but this last rage was so violent, I was genuinely afraid.  I don't know how to find the balance between setting my boundaries and trying to make some relationship work or just completely cutting him out of my life.  :help:

Hi and Welcome
What is going on?  Can you get to a safe spot ?

Hi.

Can you tell us some more?  What happened?  Like Swimmy, I want to ask if you are safe now?

We have a couple resources resources regarding domestic violence that we can share and help you work through though a few more details about your situation would help.  In the meantime, I want you to know you have found a safe place here with us.  We have had people in situations where rage and violence has happened and they have been able to work out a solution that works for them and their situation.

Here is a link to our safety first article (below).  People have found it to be vital to have a plan in case of future incidents.  Sometimes just knowing you have a plan that lists out alternatives for various situations can help you focus and be less afraid of the unknown.  Again, I am not sure of the details of your situation but want to share this in an abundance of caution. 

Safety First (https://bpdfamily.com/pdfs/safety-first-dv-1.pdf)
A safety plan is a personalized, practical plan that can help you avoid dangerous situations and know the best way to react when you are in danger. This plan includes ways to remain safe while in the relationship, planning to leave, or after you leave. Safety planning involves how to cope with emotions, tell friends and family about the abuse, take legal action, and more. We safety plan with victims, friends and family
members — anyone who is concerned about their own safety or the safety of another.

Again, *welcome*