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Title: My Adult Child BPD and the constant roller coaster ride Post by: LolaBella on August 21, 2020, 12:22:28 PM :help:
My 22 yr old BPD daughter lives at home with my husband and myself. She is a college student that is commuting. This morning’s blowup was so upsetting. It happens most mornings, different topics. My own anxiety is not controlled. I don’t want to be on this rollercoaster anymore but I have no choice because she lives here and doesn’t have the means to live on her own right now. I just want to be happy and stop walking on eggshells all the time Title: Re: My Adult Child BPD and the constant roller coaster ride Post by: Lollypop on August 22, 2020, 01:17:30 AM Hi Lolbella
Hi there. A blowout every morning must be so tedious and draining. My son bounced back to us a number of times in his late teens and early twenties. He’s a quiet bpd so a different experience for us. But I certainly understand rollercoaster and eggshells. I found that I felt a lot better about our situation and my feeling it was endless...was to take control over myself. I could watch the rollercoaster and didn’t have to be on it. Im not saying it was easy but I managed to emotionally detach myself from the dramas - I could see they were his, not mine. Practically speaking, is she stressed because she’s ill prepared for her commute and day? My son is an early riser and has a strict order in which he does things. He struggles when unexpected things happen. He left by 7 usually so I could leave him to it before starting my day. I’m wondering what your general morning scene looks like? Can you pinpoint when things start to go wrong? I get that not all of us are a morning person. It sounds stressful for her and of course you too. LP |