|
Title: I don’t know what to do Post by: ebobcat4 on August 23, 2020, 08:27:35 AM My wife and I have been married for 16 years together for 21. We have 3 kids ages 13 and 14. When the kids were young she was overwhelmed by them and I wasn’t able to be there with her because I had to work. She eventually went on Prozac that combined with alcohol got us through many years. About 2 years ago she decided that she no longer wanted to be on Prozac it was rough on her digestive system. I supported her on that. The drinking continued and her attitude towards me went down hill. I eventually gave her the choice to quit drinking or leave. She did quite but the following 9 months were hell on me. It was revenge. I have a side business on our property doing car repair and I’ve been told several times that is my priority and I have never put her first in our relationship. Anytime she has needed me I stop what I’m doing and go help her. Most recently in December was overwhelmed when we got a horse. She decided to call a doctor and went on celexal (I don’t think I spelled it correct). That got us up to April when COVID-19 started and things closed. She was having a rough couple days and something at work in her parents business upset her. She was yelling and crying that a driver wrote a note about a passenger not having a ticket that he is steeling from her. The ambulance was called because neither her mother or I new what to do. So now it seems to be revenge for that. In her mind it was done to hurt her. Over the last 5 months it seems to be getting worse about this subject when most people would be getting over it. She is talking divorce and I’m also starting to think that. I don’t want to do it but I feel there is no choice. She has not been diagnosed with bdp but definitely fits in the high functioning category. I’ve read the book stop walking on egg shells and I feel it fits me life well. Is there hope for us or any recommendations. Also she seems to be in a hurry to fix the marriage but everything I do is wrong.
Title: Re: I don’t know what to do Post by: start_again on August 23, 2020, 09:24:55 AM Welcome to the site you are in a good place here.
Is your wife still drinking? Title: Re: I don’t know what to do Post by: ebobcat4 on August 23, 2020, 10:37:57 AM No she hasn’t had a drink for over a year. I realized after she quit drinking that it wasn’t as much of a problem as not being on Prozac. Things over the years weren’t great but it was okay.
Title: Re: I don’t know what to do Post by: start_again on August 23, 2020, 10:53:26 AM I am glad to hear that alcohol is not part of the equations.
Have read any of the articles posted? This one is helpful for me: https://www.bpdfamily.com/content/what-does-it-take-be-relationship |