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Title: feeling torn Post by: sunshinyday on September 10, 2020, 11:59:35 AM I've been with my husband for almost 4 years and his BPD traits of lying have ruined our relationship. He chose to lead a double life, hiding the truth about his past, family, even his wife for the first year!
I've become my own personal PI. He never comes clean, even when confronted. This leaves me with no resolve or trust. I'm torn between loving the man I thought he was/is and hating the man that could create such havoc in my life. Has anyone made it through such things? He had a crisis recently when I asked for a divorce. Now he's begun DBT treatment, taking new meds and it seems to be working for him. He's much calmer and rational. He wants to reconcile. I left him because I couldn't live my life "waiting for the next bomb to drop." Discovering his lies... Do BPD people really change? Title: Re: feeling torn Post by: pursuingJoy on September 10, 2020, 02:54:05 PM Welcome to BPDFamily, sunshinyday :hi:
It sounds like you've been through a lot in the past few years. Wow. People with BPD can learn new ways of relating. It sounds like he's invested in DBT therapy which is great. Here are some success stories if you want to check them out: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=113820.0 Title: Re: feeling torn Post by: jaysea22 on September 14, 2020, 08:15:39 PM Is lying a trait of BPD? To an extent of living a double life? If so, why?
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