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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Anonym2806 on September 23, 2020, 03:52:36 PM



Title: She's back and I'm back here
Post by: Anonym2806 on September 23, 2020, 03:52:36 PM
Hi guys,

Last épisode : We broke up after 2 amazing months. She ghosted me for nothing. Then, 3 months after the break up, she came back with a few messages.
So, we broke up in Sep 2019 and July 2020, she send me a message to ask me to go on holiday with her.
Back together after a few explanations (She said that she was depressed) and now again. 2 weeks ago we had an argument because she didn't answer to me all the night while she was connected on her phone.
She said she was busy. 3 days of silence later, I decided to call her and she started  defending herself. Saying that it's not an exclusive relationship, even if she said it was. But I pushed her for that, and bla bla bla.
She was always testing my loyalty during a few weeks and finally, she wasn't at all.
The last night I spent with her, saying she was crazy and that I'm the only person who gives her the stability.
Now I'm not sure if I want to continue with her. We talk barely and she always have an excuse to not have a call with me.
I suggested her to meet in 1 month and to write on a paper what we need both from the other and for ourself.
Even texting her becomes difficult. She said she loves me but even that I'm not sure anymore.
Do they really know what is love?
Any help is welcome to help me to go through this.
From my side, I'm ok. I just don't know how to react. But I feel good and in a good place.

Tank you.


Title: Re: She's back and I'm back here
Post by: Anonym2806 on September 24, 2020, 11:24:34 AM
Hi guys,

Maybe someone to advise me? Should I ignore her? What’s the best to do when it’s like everything is down?

Thanks.


Title: Re: She's back and I'm back here
Post by: hardrockcy on October 04, 2020, 02:36:42 PM
surely ignore her and if she asks in any way the reasons, tell her straight that she is talking bullPLEASE READ (https://bpdfamily.com/safe-site.htm) and there can't be a healthy relationship with such statements.  i d also suggest, you repeat to her what she told and done to u, that hurt u.


Title: Re: She's back and I'm back here
Post by: Anonym2806 on October 04, 2020, 02:53:24 PM
surely ignore her and if she asks in any way the reasons, tell her straight that she is talking bullPLEASE READ (https://bpdfamily.com/safe-site.htm) and there can't be a healthy relationship with such statements.  i d also suggest, you repeat to her what she told and done to u, that hurt u.

I broke up with her. She said as well she’s concerned for her safety and for her son because I said I was upset. That’s ridiculous. She blocked me on whatsapp but not imessage or instagram. She’s back on her drug addiction as well.