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I haven't posted for a while.

After three year in court, I had the final hearing for custody this week- finishing today.  The Judge wants to consider the case over the weekend before deciding. Ex wants full custody. I want the 50-50 shared care for last five years to stay in place.

I hadn't seen my ex up close and personal for quite some time. I hadn't antipicated how traumatic it would feel.  I hadn't been braced for the multitude of allegations she made via cross examination (I recognise this was a failing on my part). She was representing herself, so she cross examined me yesterday and today. She is very keen to portray me as a perpetrator of DV, and being controlling and coercive towards her and kids.  I have a really good relationship with my kids. Of note, I don't have any criminal convictions, despite years of allegations to the Police, CPS, my employer etc..

CPS are on her side to the extent they fabricated a criminal record for me of DV x2 which they shared with kids schools, my employer (I'm a nurse), my ex etc.. Despite being found out, and knowing I don't have a criminal record, they haven't retracted it.

Fair to say I am really worried what the outcome will be. It feels like I remain in a horrible alternative reality.

Just blowing off some steam by posting here.

It's good to get an update from you!

How did your lawyer handle and refute the false allegations?

How have the children been doing with the 50-50 custody?

How are YOU doing?

The Judge accepted I don't have a criminal record.

This was her cross examination of me. Much of what she alleged I could only say it didn't happen, and there was no evidence that she could provide other than her own testimony. 

Kids want 50-50. It has worked well for them. Even CPS gave evidence that they want 50-50.  But, CPS recommended that this changes to me seeing them alternate weekends.  In UK, courts usually accept the recommendations of CPS. 

I feel traumatised by the experience over the past few days.