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Title: How do you start to care again? Post by: 99bio06 on October 04, 2020, 08:52:32 AM Married to my so for 25 years and together for 31.
He has started seeing and EMDR therapist this year and is improving a little, but I find myself in the position that I really just don’t care anymore. Things will improve and then go off the rails. I hesitate to have loving feelings again because the cycle will just continue and sometimes find myself not even wanting to put in the effort. How do you actually start caring for the person again if they are improving? Or even care about doing validating? I just avoid him as much as possible because I do not want any conflicts and just don’t have the energy to put into this anymore. Deep down I want to ... but not sure I have any strength left after years of fighting and being verbally abused Title: Re: How do you start to care again? Post by: Jay763 on October 05, 2020, 10:49:56 PM HI, I know it's taxing but taking time a part from each other helps too. If you can try and do that, it seems to keep burn out at bay.
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