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Title: I left my husband with the hope of reconciling, but now I don’t know how. Post by: Grace Beth on November 06, 2020, 12:34:46 PM I recently left my husband of 23 years because I could not take the verbal and emotional abuse any longer. He has not been diagnosed with BPD, but does display many of the characteristics. Now that I am out, and working with my own therapist, I don’t even know how to begin working on reconciling. I don’t know how long to wait until trying marriage counseling again. When we tried (Marriage counseling) a couple Months ago, it was just more destructive interactions. I feel so much peace being out of the home, but I also feel a little lost, like I am in a holding pattern. Right now we are only emailing for communication and even that can throw me into an emotional roller coaster at times!
Title: Re: I left my husband with the hope of reconciling, but now I don’t know how. Post by: pursuingJoy on November 09, 2020, 01:05:45 PM The holding pattern you're in can be tough. I always feel a sense of urgency, like maybe I should be doing more. This season is really important to achieving a new normal, a new way of relating. Things will happen in their time. It sounds like you're making good use of your time in this holding pattern. :hug:
What sorts of things does he write that throw you into the emotional roller coaster? |