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Title: Daughter with BDP Post by: miriam-go on November 19, 2020, 05:22:41 PM We have been having issues with my youngest daughter for years. The issues are not just with her father and myself, but also her two older sisters. She gets angry if we don't follow her rules
and constantly asking us to apologize for our behavior. We use to apologize but then realized we may not be at fault. She sends us 15 texts at time that are long diatribes how we have insulted her or were thoughtless. We really are not sure how to proceed with communication. Please if you have any insight into these issues I would so like to hear. Title: Re: Daughter with BDP Post by: beatricex on November 19, 2020, 07:11:36 PM hi miriam-go,
I am sorry you are going through this. Just curious, do you read the texts? I talked my husband into blocking his daughter's (my stepdaughter's) texts. It may have been the best decision I have made *) In a real emergency, her husband can text us. Or she can borrow someone's phone. But it is a clear boundary that we don't want to get this sort of texts from her. I'm not sure how old your daugther is...perhaps you can give a few more details, as this may be way off in your situation. ((miram-go) b Title: Re: Daughter with BDP Post by: BonnieW on November 29, 2020, 10:10:07 AM I could be the author of this post! My adult daughter expects apologies from me for things that I don't even know about. Recently, she berated me mercilessly by text message because I apparently rolled my eyes during on a FaceTime call. (I don't recall doing it, but it seems very clear to her that I did).
Through help with my therapist, I am setting up clear boundaries with her and have limited my exposure to her rants and drama. I hope she will find the right therapist to get a proper/updated diagnosis (she has been diagnosed with ADHD) and maybe we can enjoy a healthy relationship. Time will tell. I wish you peace. |