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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Bella2798 on December 02, 2020, 02:30:57 AM



Title: My boyfriend says he doesn't love me anymore but still seems to care
Post by: Bella2798 on December 02, 2020, 02:30:57 AM
Well, hi everyone. I'm totally new here and really in need of your advices and opinions on my problem.
Im so sorry to write this much long but I've never had somewhere to share my concerns.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years and we had lots of breakups.
What I'm asking advice for, is about our last breakup. It was his birthday 4 days ago. I went to his house with a gift and we spent some time together. All of his friends (exept one or two) forgot his birthday and didn't even send a text. He was really upset and suddenly started to say that I did nothing for his birthday, I didn't care enough and others do more for their partners and I didn't even post something for him. He blocked me (and all of his friends) and told me that he hates me. He started talking to me that night but he kept saying he doesn't want to come back because I didn't care as much as he did and I hurt him so much. Last night he somehow came back and asked for sleeping together (this is what he usually do after an isolation period to come back). he suddenly told me he doesn't feel the same anymore and being a good partner is not all about being a good sex partner (I promised him to be a better partner). I've heard such things from him before, and whenever we come back he seems to love me a lot. It was like he still feels unsafe and doesn't want to get close. I'm very confused and don't know what to do. Is he going to leave me again?


Title: Re: My boyfriend says he doesn't love me anymore but still seems to care
Post by: Cat Familiar on December 07, 2020, 09:27:16 PM
This is all about him. How are you doing?


Title: Re: My boyfriend says he doesn't love me anymore but still seems to care
Post by: Bella2798 on December 23, 2020, 03:39:20 PM
Well, I'm doing fine, as we got to talk a little about the situation! =) But I still have lots lf questions. Beside, I know I'll break again when he isolates himself again, and that's the real problem.