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Title: Confident my spouse has BPD Post by: Rainbow Brite on December 03, 2020, 09:11:33 PM :hi: unsure why I'm just now pursuing this, but here I am. Been married to someone I'm sure has BPD. They are a good person, until Mr. Hyde pops out and takes over. I have a history of working in the mental health field and have worked w people with the dx, so I know my spouse has it undiagnosed. We've been married for over 25 yrs and although I'd love to say it's been wonderful, it hasn't. I admittedly hung in here for all of this time, partly because I understand the diagnosis, & the other a sprinkling of admitted cowardice. Great person & I understand they why , but fear of moving on (stick with the known bad, instead of moving on). I have no fear of being alone, just not brave enough to take the leap. We really are compatible, until Mr
HYDE pops out. I'll be 51 & getting tired. I did take the steps of looking into divorce & seeing a Family. therapist last year. While divorce was not the 1st choice, I was tired with nothing changing. Fast forward a yr later & any small steps forward have resulted in big steps backwards. I'm trying to find a way to handle Me. Hyde in a constructive way, because we really could have a great relationship. I searched for this board after Mr. Hyde out in an appearance hoping for support/suggestions on keeping my cool & not reacting. Sorry for the book, but shares of successful handling/care would be great. Oh, my spouse would most likely kill or be killed before even considering therapy or admitting to the disorder. :help: Title: Re: Confident my spouse has BPD Post by: Mitts on December 04, 2020, 08:45:43 PM Your post was the first one I read, and I could have written it..all except for I'm 56.
I am deeply in despair...but I am trying to find some peace by finding what I like to do and to continue my own therapy. I know when he's angry, the words become meaningless. But it hurts. Good luck |