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Title: Paranoid delusions Post by: MVJRMJ on December 10, 2020, 10:21:48 AM My SO lost her best friend in January. She was hospitalized earlier this year because she was having all sorts of paranoid delusions. She believed people were watching her, following her and trying to steal a house from her. At this time she accused me of all sorts of false accusations such as tapping her phone, and hacking her computer. When she woke up very scared with no memory of how she got there on her bedroom floor she drove herself to the hospital. Once she got to the hospital she called me and begged me to forgive her. Then two days later she wouldn't speak to me again. When she got out of the hospital she was madly in love with me again and we were talking again about getting married.
Things were good but tumultuous for a while. Now she just sold the house she inherited (the one she thought people were conspiring to steal) and she has begun the paranoia and accusations of hacking and her phone being monitored again. Should I prepare myself for another round of the usual splitting until she can get through this current difficulty? Title: Re: Paranoid delusions Post by: merelytrying on December 11, 2020, 03:40:54 AM My husband has a lot of those same beliefs, and they get worse when he's stressed. I've learned to validate and go along with those beliefs, within reason. It makes things much much worse if I don't. Thankfully he doesn't talk about them to many other people besides me.
Title: Re: Paranoid delusions Post by: once removed on December 11, 2020, 05:00:13 AM Excerpt Should I prepare myself for another round of the usual splitting until she can get through this current difficulty? this may be taking things a little bit lightly. reread your post. you detail significant, ongoing, mental health crises in your loved one (loss of her best friend, hospitalization, loss of memory). i dont know if this is the usual splitting, i dont know if she will simply get through it, and im not sure its the most supportive stance in terms of rehabilitating your relationship. things are tumultuous...they are, more than likely, going to remain tumultuous. its not clear what sort of support or help shes getting, if any, upon leaving the hospital. while she needs it, its also not clear she will be getting it. while all of this is above your pay grade, so to speak, the most likely indicator of a loved one with bpd recovering is a strong and consistent support system. the question(s) id be asking is what does that entail for me. what is it going to take, how much can i reasonably give, what are reasonable expectations for her outlook on recovery, let alone for our relationship, in the short term and the long term. |