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Title: Looking into BPD regarding my daughter Post by: GrandmaLI on December 23, 2020, 02:26:53 PM I am looking into getting information on BPD. My only daughter who is in her mid 40's, divorced for 2 years has too many up and down mood swings coming out of nowhere. We are very opposite in the way we view life and many simple discussions can lead to conflict etc. My real great concern is my only grandson who is 8 yo... she has used him and sometimes takes away my visits with him...so he is her pawn. I am pretty tired for decades "walking on eggshells" but I will continue to do so until my grandchild is older and he and I can hopefully communicate without her interference. I am looking for perhaps better ways of dealing with her erratic behavior! Thank you :)
Title: Re: Looking into BPD regarding my daughter Post by: PearlsBefore on December 23, 2020, 03:26:31 PM Many members here find that DBT skills are the best way to avoid conflict when talking to BPD relatives - and since they're relatively vague mindfulness :cursing: then they often work equally well even with other disorders or anyone you're afraid is going to tear your head off. (I'm not their greatest proponent admittedly, but I'd be remiss if I didn't say I'm in a minority)
Marsha Linehan has a number of videos on Youtube, it would take months to watch them all - but they pretty much all deal with BPD and DBT skills to manage it - skills that ideally both the patient and the caregiver learn (I'd say half the caregivers I know IRL have managed to get their loved one to learn some basic DBT, half have not) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OTG7YEWkJFI is not a bad start. Her videos/texts make up the bulk of the "Family Connections" course that people will also mention. I'm glad to hear that he's already 8, and the time when you're able to deal a little more plainly with him is now within easy view - don't lose hope, your marathon race has a visible finish line :) |