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Title: D-Day has occurred over and over again for two months straight Post by: foxtanwal on December 29, 2020, 06:35:14 PM I found out that my husband of 14 years has been having an affair in my bed for the last two years. I thought I was safely quarantined and all this time the danger was in the house. He gave me an STI and that is how I learned. At first I thought it was a one-time thing. Then I found evidence of more. He did "seek treatment" for sex addiction and we are both in treatment and couples counselling. We moved to another house to get away from the scene of the crime. Then I found evidence of more, then more. Finally I got the records from the door bell of our apartment and found out that she had been with him almost every day. Now I feel like I was manipulated into thinking that he was going to change. I feel like I want to die. I know that I am probably codependent but never considered BPD as a factor in his actions until today. Suddenly everything seems clear. But I feel trapped, and too traumatized to do anything. I feel like I have been repeatedly raped for two years.
Title: Re: D-Day has occurred over and over again for two months straight Post by: EyesUp on December 30, 2020, 07:22:48 AM So sorry you are here.
Like you, I found my way here as a result of my partner's infidelity. Also married 14 years. Also awakening to B Cluster dynamics and codependency as a result of infidelity. I know how you feel - the discovery of infidelity is traumatic. You are not alone in this. Other than infidelity - which is clear - What brings you here? What are the aspects of your partner's behavior, or your relationship, that led you learn more about BPD? Share what you're comfortable with, and you'll find support here. |