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Can anyone offer advice on restraining stalking and harassment from an ex with BPD. The US probation service had forbidden contact from my stalker but she is now no longer under the jurisdiction of the probation service. I wrote to them & was directed to the District Attorney Office and Victim Services Office. I have no experience dealing with them and wonder what I can say to them and how they might be able to safeguard or support me.

I am new to this forum and currently feel overwhelmed by the stalking from my ex with BPD and often feel hopeless. I think I would feel better able to cope if I had advice and support from people who have more experience of coping with this. At the moment, I feel broken after two years of constant harassment and would desperately like to be able to move beyond this and live a relatively normal life. I would take great comfort from anyone who has been able to do this.     

In the Probation Office's directive, what was the wording re: contact, stalking, and harassment? Do you have a copy of that directive? If not, can you get one?

What was she on probation for?

What has she done after probation that would not have been allowed during probation?

I am thinking you could file for a restraining order and provide the probation directive, asking that it simply be continued as an RO , since she has not changed her behavior.

Thank you GaGrl, I have a copy of the document which lists the special terms regarding probation ticking "Contact" and specifying "annoy, harass, molest, strike, harm, phone, stalk, assault, disturb the peace of" or "be within 100 yards of the residence/ employment". My name is added to that of a person who received a hoax bomb threat from my BPD-ex.

Since then I've received direct contact but mostly online and email harassment, including clear racist abuse, through fake accounts that are obviously from her. I have little experience of BPD but suspect that her actions are more extreme than some cases I've read about on here. It would be helpful if these now out-of-date restrictions could be revived for a new restraining order.

Thank you so much for replying. The solidarity of this forum is very helpful 

The probation document is very clear. It might be worth consulting a lawyer to help you file for an RO, but that isn't required. It sounds as if you have a strong precedent.

I believe in almost every state, a restraining order  does have something in there about contact of ANY form...and that includes emails, phone calls, texts or say leaving a comment on their social media page for instance...they are pretty clear  and strict as to what constitutes contact.

Does anyone have any advice regarding my BPD stalker's remand hearing next week. I have been invited by the DA's office to testify but am balancing gaining relief from the harassment and online abuse with inflaming her condition. Also, I'm not familiar with remand hearings; will I be asked questions by a judge or cross-examined by a (hostile) lawyer?

If anyone has experience of a situation like this or advice based upon knowledge of BPD stalking, it would help me prepare for the hearing. Thank you. 

Did you have the hearing yet, Mod69?

If so, how did it go?