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Title: Do I stay or Do I go ? Post by: timekeeper on January 04, 2021, 03:35:33 PM Married to my wife for 46 years. I'm getting to the point of deciding if I should just pack it in and go?
Kids (2) are up and out and well on there way, finances are not an issue. Wife is starting to effect my health with the anger and acting out. Just looking for some advice or someone's history/experiences. Thanks. Title: Re: Do I stay or Do I go ? Post by: once removed on January 05, 2021, 04:24:51 AM 46 years is a long time.
whats going on? are your thoughts of leaving recent, or have they always been there? Title: Re: Do I stay or Do I go ? Post by: yeeter on January 05, 2021, 08:23:38 AM Much more here, as once asked about...
But one thought: what is it you want and can you get it where you are? Just start going and doing what you want. Even if that means time away or activities by yourself. Detach (with love). That might give you a feel for it and also might provide some clarity about the relationship. Title: Re: Do I stay or Do I go ? Post by: timekeeper on January 07, 2021, 02:50:11 PM 46 years is a long time. Thanks for the thoughtful reply.whats going on? are your thoughts of leaving recent, or have they always been there? I have thought about leaving for the last approx. 2 years as it is getting harder and she refuses to seek help or admit any such problem. No I have always been committed but I forgot who said " Insanity is doing the same thing over & over again expecting a different results." It feels a lot like that quote. :) Title: Re: Do I stay or Do I go ? Post by: timekeeper on January 07, 2021, 02:59:27 PM Much more here, as once asked about... That's good advice about doing things away from my drama queen...But one thought: what is it you want and can you get it where you are? Just start going and doing what you want. Even if that means time away or activities by yourself. Detach (with love). That might give you a feel for it and also might provide some clarity about the relationship. I have this lingering loyalty for my mate of over 4 decades but also a desire to stay physically & mentally healthy...stress of her anger and yelling is not sitting well with me physically. "What do I want"?..To live the rest of my life somewhat stress free, actively and I still enjoy several passions . Bicycling, Motorcycling, RVing/traveling & cuddling/sex. Most of those activities are no longer being shared with my wife. :( Title: Re: Do I stay or Do I go ? Post by: once removed on January 08, 2021, 02:17:55 AM how can we help *)
youre stressed, and shes angry, and one of you or both are yelling, and youre thinking about leaving over the last two years. but what brought this on? where did things go wrong? how are they going wrong? are the two of you fighting a lot? |