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Title: Splitting in context of "favourite Person" Post by: SlyQQ on January 26, 2021, 01:36:14 AM Didn't think I'd be posting here again life is full of wonders.
Trying to get a grip on what is now called a "favourite person" in context of: 1> is it an aspect of splitting, and how so 2> other possible contexts for splitting / a favourite person, e.g. Autism NPD etc 3> differences between splitting in BPD and other possible disorders. thanks, Title: Re: Splitting in context of "favourite Person" Post by: Swimmy55 on January 30, 2021, 08:46:39 AM Hi Sly,
I am not sure I fully understand your question, so I am posting a link in this forum on Splitting https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=62033.0 This is common in BPD . It is hurtful especially when you make a boundary and the BPD doesn't like it. One of many examples I could give: My adult son " threw me under the bus" to his Dad when he saw I couldn't afford to buy him a car when he first started college. When his Dad didn't come through , the son " threw him under the bus" to me. This consisted of telling personal details about the other person, etc. Title: Re: Splitting in context of "favourite Person" Post by: SlyQQ on January 31, 2021, 04:44:33 AM Thanks Swimmy,
Find a good friend of mine thinks she has BPD, ( she probably ticks about 8 out of nine boxes ) but I can't find it in myself to believe she has it. On top of everything she told me she now has a favourite person, ( a common occurrence in BPD ) So I was scrambling for alternative explanations, and I was wondering if anyone has experience of someone ( with or without BPD) having a favourite person so I could contextualize it. P.s. I am quite familiar with the concept of splitting in theory and practice unfortunately |