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Title: struggling with adult son Post by: PVD on February 05, 2021, 12:10:40 PM Fits every characteristic of BPD. Blames me for everything. I'm struggling with being supportive vs protecting myself from his verbal abuse.
Title: Re: struggling with adult son Post by: Swimmy55 on February 05, 2021, 04:54:18 PM Welcome! If you are more comfortable, can you share a little more- what is your son's age?
Title: Re: struggling with adult son Post by: Woody59 on February 12, 2021, 09:01:32 PM Welcome Newbie;
It's a terrible situation to be in as a parent. Part of the disorder is blaming someone else for one's own problems. I'm learning slowly to toughen my shell. It is very painful and reaching the point with my 32 yo daughter that we may have a break in our relationship for a while. She is causing daily aggravation and while I feel very badly for her situation, I am becoming exhausted by the daily vicissitudes. If you feel like you did the best you could as a parent, that's all you can do. Most of us have some sort of childhood resentment towards our parents but come to realize that they did the best they could. These children may not get there, but that is their issue. It is an assault on one's ego but I'm finding it eases somewhat with time but I don't know if the pain ever totally resolves. Best wishes. Title: Re: struggling with adult son Post by: losttrust on February 17, 2021, 11:46:03 PM What has helped - I preferred the audible of “stop walking on eggshells” and various links on this website -very helpful. As are others who have shared.
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