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Title: Walking on eggshells is sometimes exactly the way I feel Post by: redknight on February 21, 2021, 05:12:58 PM OK. I'm here.
Title: Re: Walking on eggshells is sometimes exactly the way I feel Post by: truthdevotee on February 22, 2021, 05:11:07 AM OK. I'm here. Me too redknight. Having found this forum 2 weeks ago, I'm learning how to stop walking on eggshells. Every step of progress feels really good Title: Re: Walking on eggshells is sometimes exactly the way I feel Post by: MSUSpartan on February 22, 2021, 08:25:33 AM Hi truthdevotee. Can you elaborate on what you have found this forum to stop walking on eggshells? I too find myself walking on them on a daily basis. Thanks.
Title: Re: Walking on eggshells is sometimes exactly the way I feel Post by: maxsterling on February 22, 2021, 11:16:20 AM Welcome. We all feel the same way.
This board helps. Even if just as a place to not feel alone. Title: Re: Walking on eggshells is sometimes exactly the way I feel Post by: tvda on February 22, 2021, 11:32:07 AM Hi! And welcome.
Feel free to share more details about your situation at your own pace. It took me a while to write my own story here. But it helped. There is something about the "outsider view" that can make some things a lot clearer. Also, because doing a LOT of reading about this topic seems to be a hallmark of healing or moving on, the people on this forum generally have quite valuable info to share, from the personal to the "scientific". Title: Re: Walking on eggshells is sometimes exactly the way I feel Post by: truthdevotee on February 25, 2021, 03:16:03 PM Hi truthdevotee. Can you elaborate on what you have found this forum to stop walking on eggshells? I too find myself walking on them on a daily basis. Thanks. Hi MSUSpartan Sorry for my delay responding. Two weeks ago or so, I found the Borderline & Eggshells books and came to this forum. Before that, I didn't even know what BDP is, and I've struggled in a relationship with a woman with BDP for several years. What I've found is certainty that the patterns that are described in the books and on this forum, are exactly what I've experienced. Reading people's shares here is like reading about my own life. Through all of this, I'm obtaining a new level of understanding about BDP and why things have been so hard for so many years. By sharing my experiences here and all the wonderful people sharing their insights and solutions in return, I'm finally... for the first time for so so long... regaining some level of freedom. What this comes down to for me is making personal choices according to my real feelings and values. It can be as simple as feeling tired at 2130 and telling my pwBDP that it's time for me to go to bed. It's as simple as making that statement to my pwBDP and simply doing it, no matter if she blames, criticizes or complains about it. Really, the core formula is: Freedom = Clarity about BDP + listening to what I feel, need, want and value, and honoring it Clarity about BDP is really just learning what's going on for my pwBDP, seeing the patterns of BDP, and not being controlled by those patterns |