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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Dearborn famous on March 15, 2021, 12:10:01 AM



Title: Someone help me
Post by: Dearborn famous on March 15, 2021, 12:10:01 AM
My girlfriend and I got into a fight the day after I came home from a trip for work. Because I didn’t call her after I left the barber.  She told my earlier on the phone she had to get her little brother ready and her dad was calling they were dealing with her uncles 10 year anniversary for his death. Sounded like she had her hands full to me so I let her do her thing and wait to hear from her then she says it doesn’t feel like you wanna see me or could care. But I was previously hurt and upset from another fight not to long ago when she canceled our plans to go to the movies with her little cousin and brother just because I don’t remember her cousins name and she never talks about him. So because I didn’t rember she said I’m uninviting you and I said wow okay whatever later says I don’t miss you. So I was still hurt by that and didn’t ask her to make plans to see her in hopes she’d say sorry for what she did and make me not feel that way. So we fought and said I don’t care about her it’s a one sided relationship and how she wants a break then goes to a relationship break doesn’t know what she wants with me anymore to I’m unhealthy for her we should break up because she’s tired of crying and being misunderstood and not hearing her cries. Now we didn’t talk for a week I reached out to see if she was really serious evasive when she gets mad and lashes out she doesn’t mean what she says and apparently she does want space and was in therapy twice.  And wants to find out for herself if I was the problem the whole time or her and to not get triggered bad again because she could end up killing herself. And now it’s been almost two weeks since we spoke and all I see on Facebook is what seems to be her enjoying her life like she’s perfectly fine and doing stuff possibly I wouldn’t be okay with normally. I just don’t know if it’s over and she hasn’t said or will say anything or how long she’s gonna take and I can’t wait forever the more and more I wait I get angry and hurt and upset


Title: Re: Someone help me
Post by: Dearborn famous on March 15, 2021, 12:19:52 AM
My girlfriend and I got into a fight the day after I came home from a trip for work. Because I didn’t call her after I left the barber.  She told my earlier on the phone she had to get her little brother ready and her dad was calling they were dealing with her uncles 10 year anniversary for his death. Sounded like she had her hands full to me so I let her do her thing and wait to hear from her then she says it doesn’t feel like you wanna see me or could care. But I was previously hurt and upset from another fight not to long ago when she canceled our plans to go to the movies with her little cousin and brother just because I don’t remember her cousins name and she never talks about him. So because I didn’t rember she said I’m uninviting you and I said wow okay whatever later says I don’t miss you. So I was still hurt by that and didn’t ask her to make plans to see her in hopes she’d say sorry for what she did and make me not feel that way. So we fought and said I don’t care about her it’s a one sided relationship and how she wants a break then goes to a relationship break doesn’t know what she wants with me anymore to I’m unhealthy for her we should break up because she’s tired of crying and being misunderstood and not hearing her cries. Now we didn’t talk for a week I reached out to see if she was really serious evasive when she gets mad and lashes out she doesn’t mean what she says and apparently she does want space and was in therapy twice.  And wants to find out for herself if I was the problem the whole time or her and to not get triggered bad again because she could end up killing herself. And now it’s been almost two weeks since we spoke and all I see on Facebook is what seems to be her enjoying her life like she’s perfectly fine and doing stuff possibly I wouldn’t be okay with normally. I just don’t know if it’s over and she hasn’t said or will say anything or how long she’s gonna take and I can’t wait forever the more and more I wait I get angry and hurt and upset