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Title: The more I try, the more I realize how blinding my denial has been Post by: iexist on March 18, 2021, 05:01:24 PM I'm exhausted. I've been with my wife for 20 years. I don't have much to say about that right now. I'd like to think that there's hope, but the more I try, the more I realize how blinding my denial has been. I don't think I'm actually in this relationship at this point. There's her, her feelings, and her perceptions and interpretations of me. What I actually say, do, and feel, is irrelevant. I don't feel like a person anymore. I'm just here. There's a good person inside her somewhere, but I'm not going to drive myself insane trying to find it. At this point I need to look after myself.
Title: Re: The more I try, the more I realize how blinding my denial has been Post by: Cat Familiar on March 19, 2021, 12:28:16 PM So many of us who enter into these relationships are codependents or caretakers and over time we forget to take care of ourselves.
Remembering to do that is a good first step in healing. In what way are you going to begin to look after your own needs? Title: Re: The more I try, the more I realize how blinding my denial has been Post by: Joshua 1:9 on March 24, 2021, 02:37:03 PM I completely identify with what you are describing. Thankfully I have found a great therapist, and after only 2 sessions so far, I understand the importance of taking care of myself. What I lived with as "normal" after 40 years is anything but normal.
Title: Re: The more I try, the more I realize how blinding my denial has been Post by: truthdevotee on March 25, 2021, 04:35:53 AM I feel the same way. As I'm learning self-care (as much as I can with two toddlers at home), things are getting even worse... I need to pace myself.
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