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Title: What does it cost you ? Post by: Purplerain23 on March 24, 2021, 02:40:05 PM Sorry I couldn’t finish adding to my last post ... I want to know what does it personally cost you to interact with your pwBPD that you have been trying to detach from. Have there been any benefits ?
Title: Re: What does it cost you ? Post by: Lucky Jim on March 25, 2021, 03:27:49 PM Hey Purplerain, In a sense, my Ex made it easier for me to detach because, after our separation, she kept up a relentless barrage of demeaning attacks and blame. So the price was high to interact, which caused me to keep contact to a minimum (we have kids together, so NC was not an option). Everyone's situation is a little different, of course, but I would say that in my case interactions were more of a liability than a benefit, if that helps you!
LuckyJim Title: Re: What does it cost you ? Post by: Georgia98 on March 28, 2021, 10:39:20 PM I guess I have the same question. But I think about it a lot, and I've come to the conclusion that interacting, communicating, etc. with my ex essentially means abandoning myself. It costs me my self worth and energy when I give myself over to trying to be there for a person who can't give that back. I logically understand that for me, there's no benefit to either party to have any communication, but there's a lot of days when I try to rationalize it.
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