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Title: How do I break it off? Post by: CodependentCalli on March 29, 2021, 09:44:10 AM :help:
My partner is diagnosed bpd. I love her and will always love her but her symptoms and behaviors (especially the anger) are not healthy and I don't want my children (not hers) growing up around that. I have broken up with her twice now but keep get sucked back in with promises of change. The first 5 months go great and she follows through but then the cracks start showing and her angry behaviors return. I dont know how to break it off for real now. Title: Re: How do I break it off? Post by: Lucky Jim on March 29, 2021, 11:46:59 AM Hey CC, A BPD r/s has cycles of ups and downs, as you describe. The highs are exhilarating, while the lows are a nightmare. The only question is whether you are ready to get off the roller coaster, which is a determination only you can make. Most of us, including me, have been through numerous recycles before reaching a turning point. It's highly unlikely that she will leave you, due to her fear of abandonment, which means that you are the one driving the car, so-to-speak. You call the shots. Breaking up is a painful process, yet it leads to greater happiness, in my experience. What is the right path for you?
LuckyJim Title: Re: How do I break it off? Post by: Rev on March 29, 2021, 12:14:28 PM :help: My partner is diagnosed bpd. I love her and will always love her but her symptoms and behaviors (especially the anger) are not healthy and I don't want my children (not hers) growing up around that. I have broken up with her twice now but keep get sucked back in with promises of change. The first 5 months go great and she follows through but then the cracks start showing and her angry behaviors return. I dont know how to break it off for real now. Hey there Co-dependent. Welcome to our community. Lot's of great people here and lot's experience. No judgement either. I second Lucky Jim. Each path is different. I'd like to add this thought. Can you say more about where your stumbling blocks are that get in your way - one way or another? That might shed some light on the answer to your question - how to break it off. Hang in there. Rev |