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Title: Just discovered my boyfriend of 8 years has BPD.. need help Post by: Honey777 on May 18, 2021, 11:04:04 PM Hello, I have just discovered that my boyfriend of 8 years, on and off, has BPD. I am so lost as to how to go further with this. I read the entire “How to stop walking on eggshells” book and will be reading it again and again. I need help. He is so hard to talk to. I just need respect and to stop being mentally/physically harmed. I have a therapist, who is amazing, she is the one who told me to read that book. Just need some more advice on how to tell him the things I need in order to not feel so horrible and depressed... I feel like I’m mentally deteriorating. I just want to have more of the good times and respect. I love him and want to make this better.
Title: Re: Just discovered my boyfriend of 8 years has BPD.. need help Post by: Jabiru on May 19, 2021, 02:29:43 PM Hello and welcome. Maybe there's no 100% conflict-free way to do it. Try to get him when he's in a good mood. Be prepared for any of the consequences.
I also recommend reading Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist. It helped me to listen to my own feelings and stand up for them. Good luck and keep us posted. |