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Title: Sad seeking solace Post by: Carry on on June 07, 2021, 10:27:06 AM :hi: just starting this journey of understanding and seeking ways to set boundaries and respond or not respond to the foul stuff she spews. Carry On
Title: Re: Sad seeking solace Post by: Sancho on June 08, 2021, 05:47:03 AM Well to you. We understand your journey - the incredible challenges and pain.
When you read the posts here you will find a strong message about caring for yourself. This can be a long journey and there are no quick fixes. Reading the material here will help a lot. Setting boundaries and how to cope with the response when you do set them. Most importantly I think is to - what I call - 'but a bubble around yourself'. This is what I try to do when the foul verbal abuse starts. But it's taken a long time to be able to not let it get to me. Hope you can keep coming here - just helps knowing you are not alone. Title: Re: Sad seeking solace Post by: By Still Water on June 08, 2021, 05:56:24 PM Hello - I'm a new member, as well. It's difficult to deal with the unprovoked wrath spewed - so hurtful. The more I remind myself that he is ill, the less I take it personally. But grieving for a child's mental illness never really stops, I think. It just becomes more manageable as I grow older. Ours in approaching forty. What also helps us is to count the many things we did right, the times we comforted, gave out of ourselves, etc. I think - as parents - we need to be kind to ourselves, too.
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