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Title: Stress Post by: tysontaylor on June 27, 2021, 05:05:37 AM How do people's partners/exes with BPD handle stress? It seems to me that my ex goes radio silent, as she ghosted and blocked me a few days out from her exams (resulting in the breakup) a couple of months ago and now we've somewhat reconnected, she's non-responsive to texts - again presumably because of exams this week. Though she did answer my last call almost immediately. Is this a common theme?
Title: Re: Stress Post by: pursuingJoy on June 28, 2021, 10:44:31 AM Are you asking about managing your stress level when she doesn't respond, or how to manage her stress level during test taking?
Consistency is not a forte of pwBPD, simply because by nature, their emotional state is usually vulnerable. Title: Re: Stress Post by: once removed on June 29, 2021, 12:47:11 AM in reading your previous posts, this is a relationship that is currently in a state of breakup, do i have that right?
is it possible you are pushing/chasing a bit much for her? Title: Re: Stress Post by: tvda on June 29, 2021, 03:35:05 AM My ex was extremely sensitive to stress - as is apparently very common in BPDs.
On the other hand, I felt it was a very handy "catch-all" excuse to create distance in a passive aggressive way. As when someone "stresses out", well, you would be an *sshole to not consider their feelings and need for time off... But then again, on the other hand, who is taking YOUR stress levels into account? In my case: noone. No empathy for that. |