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Title: Been struggling lately... Post by: marv1995 on August 27, 2021, 08:17:12 AM Been struggling and really missing him lately, it's been almost 3 weeks since we last spoke. I just want to be with him but I have to remember he is untreated and this cycle will just continue...the lying, going behind my back, possible cheating (almost certain this happened). Last night I had a weird dream that his mom told me he was seeing someone else but still loved me lol. You know how it is when you wake up from a dream and realize it's not reality, so I woke up a bit depressed this morning. I just want to be fully moved on already.
Title: Re: Been struggling lately... Post by: ILMBPDC on August 27, 2021, 01:38:10 PM :hug:
I know that feeling. I had it at about the same timeframe as well (I'm 5 weeks tomorrow). Keep reminding yourself of why it didn't work and will never work. I personally remind myself of the red flags that I ignored from the start - not to beat myself up over it, but to remind myself that it was never what I wanted. (That may or may not work for you if you aren't yet being compassionate with yourself) And keep yourself busy, distraction helps. Being with other people helps, close friends or family are best but honestly just being in any environment where you are socializing will help keep your mind off things. I started going to bar trivia on Sunday nights and have a couple of Zoom groups from Meetup during the week. Even though they don't know it, these people are supporting me and helping me through a tough time by just engaging with me. Posting on this board and interacting with people here helps me by reminding me I'm not alone. I know it's cliché but the feeling will pass. Take care of YOU right now; you are what is important in your life. |