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Title: Crawling out of the abyss Post by: TSpoonin on November 04, 2021, 12:37:46 PM Just introducing myself and my life. Don't mean to ask for anything except support. This is a merciful life and I'd hope you all know I just seek to relate at this point. I'm soaking it all in and I know for a fact I'm not alone here.
Hi. Not sure how these pages work. Kinda reminds me of my space lol. Anyways my hubby has bpd. I will learn how to not take him personally so that the loving parts shine through. Why? Because our union was a match made in heaven. All the way to the preacher introducing us to only spending 300 buks on the perfect wedding because my church family became our church family. Everyone loves him. I sound like I found my knight in shining armor don't i... Just realized this. That is an exact reality of the types of passion that bpd sufferers embody along with the extreme amount of pain and worry. I do literally feel like God took my self love deficiency and brought us together cuz (thank God it's become a loving and grateful joke between us) only I could put up with him and love him.. please tell me I'm not the only one who's reached this level of acceptance with the loved ones illness... Because if I can learn to not take him personally in these times then I can be loving. Down to... learning not to get pissed when he complains constantly... I am not a doormat so why should I act like one... this means when he wiped his muddy boots... I don't take it... he's doing it in the wind... but then I still need to be present and acknowledge his frustration in some way. It is walking a tight rope but I could only do it if I'm dedicated to growing myself and not being a toxic part of his life also. Resentments breed the same thing you resent so.. I will be my own damn healing no matter what. Anyone left behind will catch up if they want me. Title: Re: Crawling out of the abyss Post by: Cat Familiar on November 04, 2021, 02:30:31 PM How can we be of assistance?
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