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In a moment of weakness, I told my friend that my brother has BPD. I feel awful for doing this as it is not my place but needed someone to talk to outside of my family.

I don't really know what I want out of this post, but looking to understand if others have disclosed this information to friends or do you have other people you discuss the issues with to help you cope?

I've discussed it with plenty of my friends. The upside is that they all have experience with BPD like relatives.

I got static from my mom's former neighbor (I didn't mention BPD), but she also had issues in her family, estranged from her daughter.

In my opinion, reach out to whoever can support you.

If you reach out: you need support.

If you feel guilty: you need support, and it's natural to feel guilty if you've been implicitly or explicitly taught that you don't need support, but instead pressured to support a relative with BPD.

Did he ask you not to disclose it to anyone

No

I'm my experience, the most validating conversations were with those who had experience with pwBPD in their lives. Too many of us.

It is important to seek support and validation from people who understand BPD and/or are capable of listening and learning from what you tell them. My siblings have been horrible to me since my mother died, and I have heard endless stories from other people with similar experiences. The key is to be aware of who you can share your experiences with and who will support you. Did you feel your friend listened and was respectful about what you told him/her about your brother?