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Title: Going Grey Rock Post by: hidingmyself on November 22, 2021, 01:14:38 PM Ok, so after my daughter was done raging at me and her dad, she said that she was going to go "grey rock." I just looked up what it means and, I only wish she would go grey rock, lol. Sounds like a survival technique for myself. It basically is this:
The grey rock method involves communicating in an uninteresting way when interacting with abusive or manipulative people. The name “grey rock” refers to how those using this approach become unresponsive, similar to a rock. The technique may involve: avoiding interactions with the abusive person keeping unavoidable interactions brief giving short or one-word answers to questions communicating in a factual, unemotional way The aim is to cause the abusive person to lose interest and stop their antagonistic behavior, to protect a person’s emotional well-being. It seems that this is what a lot of us have to do, even though we have not called it that. Title: Re: Going Grey Rock Post by: Sancho on November 22, 2021, 04:05:25 PM I came across Grey Stone Rock and this is what I have been trying for the past 18 months or so - and I have found it really good.
You can engage with BPD for a certain amount of time and to a point - then it becomes fuel for the fire. By grey stoning: I live parallel to BPD dd rather than 'with'. I don't get quite so damaged by the outbursts' The outbursts are definitely shorter She is less likely to ask for money etc It creates a space in which you quietly take back some control |