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I’m relocating and there was a woman there that is also moving out of the apartment building. A really innocent looking smiley lady. She shouts “If this property charges me for another month here I’ll be suing the HELL out of this place!”. She was shouting at the same guy that my ex chewed out; he’s a maintenance guy he’s not even responsible for rent lol. I remember explaining to my ex how she shouldn’t have been that way with him.

Then she turned around to me all happy and smiley, telling me how this place has sucks etc, wide eyed, walked off like she’s in her own world with her puppy. I saw both sides of her in the space of 2 mins.

Then she came back because she forgot something and carried on talking to me, all happy like. I got her number.

I felt the fire in my chest… and that can only be a bad thing! Such a familiar feeling, I instantly spotted it.

 red-flag red-flag  red-flag

What is it that you find attractive?

I think it’s the sense that they appear to really know “how to get stuff done”? She just appeared very confident and “correct”. Same way I felt about my ex. Obviously this person is ridiculous for shouting at a maintenance man about rental things for many reasons. She was angry at someone else but nice to me. Someone “wronged her” and she “dealt with it?” and I got the nice treatment.

It’s the same pulling feeling of being on an adventure with someone who seems to just “know” that I had with my ex, but she never really did. It’s like confidence. It’s not though is it, something else is going on there.

I deleted the number, it was hard because it felt very familiar but i did it.

It is "Living in the Moment to The Extreme".

Without care or consideration of consequence to self or others.

Psychopaths also display the same behaviour/attitude.

Congrats on deleting the number. Practise doing that to reduce your primal reaction to the "confidence" that your brain/body finds attractive.

Until you develop the ability to see past that initial hormone surge of interest.

 A healthy human has balance. There is no balance in pwBPD.

Notice when people refuse to follow normal human rules and guidelines and look for those who are willing and able to. If you want a life that will not be destroyed by the madness of it all. Find excitement in something that wont destroy your own wellbeing in every way...like go-karting.