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Title: First Post Post by: rockstar97 on December 27, 2021, 04:05:24 PM My mother has undiagnosed Borderline Personality disorder. She meets all nine of the criteria.Christiane Lawson's book about BPD mothers made me realize my mother has it. My mother is the high functioning type (Queen/Witch). She also has traits of a covert narcissist and sociopath. She is a pathological liar. My mother has been relentless in her efforts to commit me to a mental institution. She has done a lot of damage and I have a lot to unpack and vent. I am using this forum to unpack my emotional baggage related to my mother so I don't emotionally dump on my friends and damage my relationship with them.
Title: Re: First Post Post by: Woolspinner2000 on December 27, 2021, 08:36:52 PM Rockstar97, :hi:
Welcome! Yes, please do come here and vent to us! We understand and listen and offer our parallel experiences and how we have gotten through them. Glad you have joined us and made your first post. Lawson's book is quite enlightening, isn't it? It's not necessarily an easy read, but for the first time I felt as if someone had crawled into my head and saw the world the way I did, experiencing the same things I did. My uBPDm also met all or nearly all of the criteria for BPD. She was most frequently the Witch and Queen, also the Waif and Hermit when necessary. I suppose it's no wonder that I lived in fear most of my life (when you think of the Queen and Witch). What is one way that you have been greatly affected by your uBPDm? We have a Survivors Guide near the top of the list of posts on our page. I'd encourage you to check it out and see where you think you are. Click on any of the numbers, and they'll open up into more information. Once again, welcome! :hug: Wools Title: Re: First Post Post by: eaglestar on December 27, 2021, 09:59:42 PM Welcome, Rockstar97! This forum is a good place to vent and gain the perspective of others in similar situations. I have just started to see how growing up with my mother has shaped my current behaviors. One behavior that I've just discovered is troublesome is that I am extremely averse to when my wife gets in a mood, or even just stops being peppy and acts tired, disengaged, or otherwise uninterested. I'm very reactive to these moods, and something deep in my soul recoils from them like fingernails on a chalkboard. In the context of growing up walking on eggshells, I think I've discovered that I always expect these moods to be a harbinger for an explosion, and so they set me on edge.
This is just one example of something I've learned from reading about BPD and NPD and being on this forum. You've come to the right place to learn and vent! Welcome! |